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[mewithin]

So I've been on a year long medically supervised diet(ins requirment) Now that I am on the down hill slide, June is full of all the testing the surgeon and ins. co. want me to have done, I find that I am crying over everything! Storys I've read on here, stuff I see on t.v. ,church. I even cried to the reseptionist for the counselor(another ins.requirment)when they said they would help me and on Friday!! I feel like a crybaby! I am so thankful I can come here for support because no one else seems to really get what I am going through. Mom tries but......
I'm also afraid after all this the ins. co. will turn me down but then I say why would they have spent the money on all this if they weren't gonna approve it. AAUUGGHHH...Thank you I feel better now

[ttowe]

Besides all the emotional stuff that goes a long with trying to get this surgery...there are hormonal stuff as you lose weight. That could be also causing you to be so emotional. 

Deciding to have surgery and then fighting to get get...is bound to leave anyone feeling overwelmed, anxious, scared, worrisome...you name it.


Toni

[trimoon]

I am going through the EXACT same thing right now...I can cry at the drop of a hat.  I have been doing a lot of thinking about it and here is what conclusion I have come to....although I want to get healthier and lose weight, there is still a bit of a "mourning" period that goes on with this decision.  Personally, I am deciding to give up the lifestyle I have had for 22 years (I have been overweight since I was about 11).  I am choosing to let go of this body that I created.  Although I don't want to look/feel like this anymore, there is still something emotional about letting it go. Anyone else feel this way once they committed to this change?

[Barb]

A year long diet??!!    Dang!! But it'll all be worth it!! Keep us posted on your progress!!

I remember when I first found this place... I was on here every single day, watching the videos & reading all the posts. I cried so much, you have no idea!! When I read something sad or even something happy, I wondered why I stayed if it made me cry so much?? I told myself that it was sad that a place like this even had to exist, like I was mourning everyone's misery, my own included.

But I think it went a lot deeper than that. It's helped me do a lot of soul searching, really looking inside myself. How I got to this place in my life & how I was finally going to be able to make a change for the better.
I don't think I would've been as prepared & informed as I was for my surgery without everyone here. I've learned so much about a lot of things that are going to help me for a looooong time!!
I still make mistakes but I know I'm a work in progress. The outside is gonna happen, the inside is where all the work is at!

Best of luck Jennifer!!

[baka]

Jennifer you were led to BTV for a reason like we all were - This is FAMILY.

We're all here to support each other and when we fall down we pick you up, dust you off and help you get back on that horse.

As you lose fat cells estrogen is being released into your body so your emotions will be all over the place - It's perfectly normal!

Ian

[Mo-Mik]

Ian-you want to call my husband and explain that?

Lately, I can hardly stand living with myself-I cry-I yell-I want to be left alone-I want attention-        You get the picture?

Still wouldn't trade a thing for the power a one hundred forty two pound weight loss has given me.  (but yeah, it is a bugger sometimes)

[mewithin]

Ian ,seriously ...where do you get your info? First the great info on protein and now this. Who knew hormones were stored in fat cells?! Well I guess you did. I am so glad to know this is normal and thanks for the info. so I can explain to my family that no I'm not crazy 

[snapefantasy]

Ian ,seriously ...where do you get your info? First the great info on protein and now this. Who knew hormones were stored in fat cells?! Well I guess you did. I am so glad to know this is normal and thanks for the info. so I can explain to my family that no I'm not crazy 

Oh, you'll find out even faster after surgery. The rapid weight loss will make you have the emotions of a pregnant woman all over again. I am still having crazy mood swings at 11 months.

[kiersti]

I was a mess after about 8 weeks.  I went a little crazy - I really felt unhinged for a couple weeks.  I found myself pacing the kitchen - unable to eat to salve my emotions...I had lost my best friend - my life long answer to problems - FOOD.  I MOURNED, I cried, I pulled hair, I HAD to find new ways to deal with stress. 

This is still hard - but not like it was that first 3 months. 

I fought bitterly with my dad - WE NEVER fought before and he is still not quite sure what happened. 

I was in the middle of the most stressful thing ever - recovering from WLS and I didn't have any tools to deal with the emotions/stress anymore.  Food was my primary tool. 

I have discovered exercise is a great stress relief for me now.  Hanging with my kids.  Doing chores....Basically I am still a work in progress - but I have had to fight an uphill battle on this front so I feel your pain. 

The BTV Forums were a lifesaver for me...really.  So like the other said - we are family - feel free to use us as a crutch though these first few months.  Things will get better!

[SeekingHealthy]

I believe anyone who has went through the process of getting approved for WLS has been down the path you describe to one extent or another. 

Hang in there.  What you are experiencing is normal.  Have faith, you will get your WLS and be on the other side in no time.  If your doctor is good at what he does, he will know how to get through the insurance hurdles for you.